Newlyweds email a guest to complain that wedding gift was cheap

Sometimes it's hard for one to know what to gift a couple at their wedding when you attend. This was the case for a guest who attended her ex colleague's wedding. She didn't know what gift to buy but she saw that the couple requested cash as gifts people could give to them, so she wrote a cheque for about $145, placed it in an envelope and gave it to the couple on their wedding day. 

Rather than receive a thank you note from the married couple, the guest received a complaint that the money was too small, lol.

So the unnamed guest took to a Mumset forum asking for advice in how to respond to the email she received.

According to the wedding guest who simply gave her name as Puzzledandpissedoff, she was “gobsmacked” that the couple had been rude enough to complain about her $145 contribution.


She said she received an email from the couple which read:

“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”

The woman believes that the reference to her ‘position’ was most likely about a recent inheritance.

The poster then went on to ask the forum for advice in how she should react.

“For someone who’s not easily shocked I confess I’m utterly gobsmacked by this."

“Please, anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what?”

A lot of people in the forum urged her to call her bank and cancel the cheque. Others said:

“Rudest thing I’ve ever heard. Please cancel check and buy us all cakes,” one user wrote.

“Grabby and greedy is really an understatement here. On reflection, I think I might email “You MUST be kidding?!” back to her with no other comment and then never speak to them again,” another added.

“I would email back but BCC any mutual friends in so they are able to see the email for themselves or send a glitter bomb as the extra :P,” one viewer wrote. “That is entitled and grabby. It’s a gift not an obligation and many people wouldn’t have given so much to an ex colleague.”

Others thought the best way to deal with it would be to ask what would have been an ‘appropriate’ amount.

“What amount do you feel would adequately reflect the warmth of my good wishes? My pen is poised over my checkbook,” said another user.